I've
received a number of condolences from various people during the last
couple of weeks. I know the thoughts and feelings behind the words are
sincere and heartfelt, but there are a few well used phrases, I wish
people wouldn't say.
- She/he is in a better place. - I understand what you're trying to say, but I will always feel that the best place for my loved one is to be with me in my life.
- Time heals all wounds. - I don't think this is true when it comes to death. I don't think anyone heals from or gets over the loss of a loved one. You just eventually learn to cope with the loss with some days being easier than others.
- At least she/he didn't suffer. - Is this supposed to make me feel better about losing the person? If the person did suffer before passing on, am I supposed to feel worse than I already do? Is that even possible?
- "I'm
sorry to hear about your loss" or "I'm sorry to hear of your loss." -
I'm a literal person by nature so when someone says this to me, it
immediately offends me. Why? Because the speaker isn't saying he/she is
sorry for the loss that I suffered, just that they're sorry they had to hear about it -
I'm sorry to hear of or about your loss.
